On Being A Father

From Deep Minds Anonymous

There is no lower place a parent can sink than using their own child as an instrument of punishment against the other parent.

When a father withholds support, skips visits, ignores needs, or creates instability in a child’s life, not because he cannot show up but because he wants to watch you suffer, he has crossed a line that no apology, no court order, and no amount of time can fully erase it.

That child did not ask to be born into the middle of adult anger.  That child did not choose sides, create the conflict, or deserve to go without basic needs being met because two grown people could not separate their pain from their parenting.

The most devastating part is that the child feels the absence without understanding the reason, and carries that wound silently while the parent responsible sleeps without guilt.

But what goes around in matters involving innocent children comes around with a weight that is almost biblical.

A man who starves his child emotionally, financially, or physically just to hurt their mother is not a father in any sense of the word; he is simply a person who was given a sacred responsibility and chose revenge instead.

That child will grow up, connect every dot, and the truth of who chose them and who used them will be clearer than anything any court ever decided.